My teenage brother is in that phase where he hates everything relevant in the household. I keep explaining it to my parents, whose parental skills were last tested during the Clinton administration, that their parenting is not the complete reason why my brother detests them. They're convince, illogically might I add, that they've been too strict with him and not letting him have more free time.
Personally with someone like my brother I question if he had enough strict time. And although being a proponent of positive reinforcement I feel that there are a few lines that has got to be drawn. At least to my observation that both their parental skills are viable, however when implemented onto the same child becomes incompatable. My mom's rules are strict and border Nazism where as my dads border stoicism.
Anyway, I should just cut to the chase: if you’re a proud gay/straight parent of a teenager, please PLEASE PLEASE don't blame yourself if your teenager kid acts up and/or shuts you out.
It's natural for them to hate you.
Your best bet is to outsmart them and or wait it out until they move away to college.
Oh and during an argument I think you should stop when they've said "whatever." That's usually teenage-lingo for conceding. Let them walk away and lick their wounds. Punish fairly, accordingly, and provide rationales so that way they know why they're being punished. It's also good to have around just in case they try to sue you during their emancipation hearing.
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